Okay so when I went saw that priest who read my soul, he told me I didn't love myself and I needed to learn to, he was completely right of course, but then that's because God was telling him how I felt about myself. My whole life I just wanted to be super beautiful, super skinny, wanted to have lots of friends, get lots of attention. But I really thought I needed to look awesomely fabulous... NOT TRUE.
I don't think I grew into my looks until I was a senior in high school and that's just thinking I finally got to where I wanted to be, I always thought I could use improvement in some way, everyday it seemed I wanted to change something about me. Even then I still didn't appreciate the way I looked, sure I was told I was beautiful, hot, sexy, blah blah blah (the way I look at it now). I even did a smidgen of modeling at one point. But it was never enough, I never thought I was good enough. I never even thought I was good enough for my husband.
I always wore TONS of makeup, I mean I caked it on. I would have like makeup everywhere, It literally would take me 2-3 hours to get ready to go somewhere. Sometimes I still take a little while but I'm learning to do it more quickly (I have 2 kids, I don't have that much time anymore) and not use nearly as much as I was.
I dressed not so appropriate at times. I mean I'm 24, I have 2 children, I have been a mother since the age of 18 when I first saw that + sign on the test. A MOTHER SHOULD DRESS LIKE A MOTHER! And when you dress in a way that shows off a lot, your inviting other men to look at you in a way that they shouldn't be. If your married that is a problem. If your single think about the men that you are attracting and the effect your dressing has on your children, like what others think of you is what their thinking of your children's mother. Also you don't want to attract a man that is only interested in the first thing he sees (which is your body) then he won't respect you.
I know as a mother I want my children to over hear good things being said about me. But I didn't realize anything until I put God in my life. So here is a few things I have learned.
When I found God, I mean when I truly built a relationship with him and put him first in my life, I started seeing things completely differently.
Does God like the way your dressing?
Now that I have really realized that God is my father and he sees everything I do, I started to think, well he might not like the way I am dressing, because its not all that appropriate at times. So I went through my closet and started getting rid of all the things that showed me off inappropriately. If I have a shirt that's cut low, I find a cute undershirt to put on under it, there are also those things you clip to your bra called a "Modesty Panel", I don't have any but I am getting some soon because there cute and instead of having to wear an undershirt especially in summer when its hot, this is the best alternative.
So when I think about going somewhere I make sure I pick an outfit that is appropriate for me and I think about if God would approve of what I am wearing. Yes there are cute modest clothes out there! Just because you are a mother doesn't mean its the end of cute clothes. I know I have changed my wardrobe around and learned to dress fashionably and modestly.
Dressing in a way that shows off too much or dressing in way that isn't really appropriate really has an effect on the way people look and think of you. You might be an awesome person, good hearted, kind down to the bone, but if you dress inappropriately then people will just think inappropriately about you. I know I have been there.
And dressing more appropriately and not showing off a lot really helps boost your confidence, do you want someone to be looking at your body while they are talking to you, or at your face? I haven't felt this good about myself in a long time, and I don't think I ever had the confidence I have now when I was dressing all funky like HA HA. Its because I know people aren't thinking about how inappropriate I look.
Less (Makeup) is More!
So I have been trying not to wear as much makeup as I use to, I mean all caking it on is good for is clogging your pores anyway. And so instead of having a ton of makeup out, I only put a few things out for what I will be wearing. I took some pictures to show you. And also I will show you how to "look good for less", if your like me, then you have a tight budget on which you can shop on. Besides God loves us for who we are and He made us each unique so we shouldn't really spoil his creation, we should just enhance it a little. Do you know how hard it was for me to learn that!! And I have realized my husband always said he didn't care what I looked like, and in fact he would always ask why are you putting on makeup? My husband loves me outside of the makeup and I know God does to!
(Seriously it use to take me 3 hours to get ready and a ton of makeup)
(Less really is More)
(this is seriously a big step for me, to have this little makeup out!)
This is all I used today, Moisturizer to start with from Wal-Mart (the generic kind because its cheaper). Base, some translucent powder, loose powder, mineral booster (which I learned how to DIY by the way, some blush (I try to stick with something close to natural) and eye shadow (which I used the matte rose color in the top right corner of my eye palette), some eyeliner, a natural lip liner and some cherry chap stick which has a tint to it so no need or lipstick! Today I felt prettier than I have in a long time, why? Because I stuck with natural looking makeup and most if it cost a few dollars for each item, I bargain shop not even going to lie, the blush was a $1 at the dollar tree, the chap stick cost me .69c. Also, I LOVE Avon makeup. I started selling it just so I can get the discounted price and they surprisingly have awesome deals from time to time, there eye shadow as pictured above is like $9 but I got it on sale for like 3-4 bucks. They always have good sales you just got to watch for them, and they have such good natural colors! And like I said I am a bargain shopper, I do NOT like to spend a lot of money on makeup so I wait for deals to come out.
Not to mention the mineral booster is so easy to DIY.. Guess what its just cornstarch with a tint HA HA, So I started mixing my mineral booster with cornstarch to make it last longer, but you can just use cornstarch by itself, I do it all the time! I found this out on this girls blog ReeseKistel shes like the DIY queen I swear!
So sticking with natural make up really plays up what God gave you. And yes its fun to dress up and go all out, but I really wouldn't do that ALL the time, it gets old. You want to save that for special occasions and then when you decide to get all dolled up your husband or whoever will really be blown off their feet!! LESS IS MORE just remember that.
Make up was not around in Bible times and yet we hear how beautiful some of the women in the Bible were, for one because they were close to God, so their personalities and their attitudes were humbled ones, kind, considerate (like the Virgin Mary). Look your ONLY AS PRETTY AS YOUR PERSONALITY. Being Beautiful means HAVING A BEAUTIFUL ATTITUDE.
If you have an ugly attitude it doesn't matter how beautiful you are, your attitude is what is going to turn people off. Being conceited doesn't help either, no body wants to hear how good you think you look because then their just going to think negatively of you as well. These are all lessons I have learned.
Just aim to please God that is all, learn to treat your body like a temple, learn to respect yourself and love yourself. It makes a world of difference on your attitude. It took me 24 years to learn to START loving myself and I couldn't have done it without God! He makes me want to be a better me and to dress and look in a way that is pleasing to Him!
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